Day 53 - Healthy Grieving: Step Three
The third step in the healthy grieving process is so simple, yet so important; it is to feel free to grieve in your own way. Other people may criticize or make comments about your grieving or the amount of time it is taking you. Realize that your grief is unique. If you are honest with yourself, then you don’t need to worry about what others are saying.
Heidi, who lost her husband, says, “One thing that really upset me was when some people said, ‘You need to get on with your life. You need to get over the grieving process.’ I felt they were wrong because they had never been through this. How could they say that?”
You have to go through the grieving process. Turn to God when you are anxious, uncertain, or frustrated about your grief and about what other people are saying.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7).
Father, in my hurt and confusion I come to You. Hold me close and fill me with that indescribable peace. Amen.